“People empty me. I have to get away to refill.” – Charles Bukowski
Ever since childhood, no matter where I went, at school, family functions, a get together and otherwise; I was/still am told, “You’re so quiet”. And my parents used to cover for me back then by saying, “Oh! She’s just being shy”. Now when I hear people say that, that just makes me anxious. I just smile and make the situation even more awkward. Does it ever turn to you like you might be boring someone with your silence? Well, you’re not boring. You’re just an introvert. Here’s why:
- YOU FEEL SOCIALLY AWKWARD.
Introverts are mostly, socially awkward. Or let’s say, they are selectively social. I, for instance, never initiate a conversation. And if someone does that for me, I’m bad at holding up a conversation. I like how some people can talk effortlessly to someone they just met. I quickly get mentally drained when I’m socializing. Does that ever happen to you?
Some of you might confuse “being an introvert” with “being shy”. There’s a thin line between them both. If you yearn for conversation but panic and shut down when someone tries to talk to you, you’re just being shy. But if you love solitude and like to enjoy your time with the people you enjoy, you’re an introvert.
- YOU CLAIM TO BE A GOOD LISTENER.
Introverts are good listeners. You don’t just hear to respond. You understand what the other is trying to say, deeply. You listen. You tend to give the best advice because you listen deeply and take time to respond. You won’t judge them by their story.(Well, I judge them. 😛 )
- YOU RETAIN AN AIR OF MYSTERY.
There really is nothing mysterious about you , but your tendency to stay just outside the crowd, simply watching and observing, while keeping your emotions and body language in check, makes you seem like you are mysterious. Do you relate to this one? I do, totally. This happens to me all the time. I am told by people that I appear secretive. I don’t even bother to explain why.
- YOU’RE COMFORTABLE EXPRESSING IN WRITING.
You are weird in person but really expressive in black and white. I prefer texting over calling on the phone. I’m much expressive when I text people. That way, I can think before putting my thoughts into words and respond well. I miss things that I should’ve said over the phone. And I get to edit before I text it to that person.
- YOU’RE A LOYAL FRIEND.
Introverts will never leave your side. They barely have some friends. Close friends. So, if you’ve been welcomed into an introvert’s inner circle, you can almost be certain you have a loyal ally for life.